HopeK429

Here’s the truth: You can be a really good friend, and still not really be liked. You can hold someone dear and still not be valued. You can say all the right things, and still have someone twist your words, brush off your words, or worse—use your words against you. You can give it your absolute best, and still have it not work out. You can be straight-up sunshine in the flesh, and still walk into a shit storm . You can play your heart out, and still lose the game. You can place the highest bid, and still walk away empty-handed. You can be pure as humanly possible, and still be painted as the bad guy. After years of work, these are some things I’ve learned: You can’t control other people. Not even in the slightest, and it is a complete waste to ever assume you can. It will make you mad as hell , and exhausted, and chasing something you don’t have a chance to catch, so switch gears and control you. Control your mouth. Control how you treat people. Control your attitude. Guard your heart, and keep it genuine. Keep showing up, and let that be enough.. Other people aren’t you. They don’t think like you, or feel like you. Their experiences belong to them alone. They approach situations differently, and their outlook is nothing like yours. Don’t expect them to handle things exactly like you do. They aren’t you. They’re them. Do your best to love them for it. Some people are never going to like you, and there isn’t necessarily and a rhyme or reason. Your life will improve significantly as soon as you learn this and trust me its not the end of the world... Sometimes you’re actually the bad guy. Sometimes you’re the one acting foolish. Sometimes you’re the one with the toxic trait or two. Check your own heart. Clean out the junk, and grow from it. Apologize, and now that you’ve learned—take that wisdom, do better next time, stay humble, and give others an awful lot of grace along the way. There is a purpose to it all. There is beauty everywhere. That failed friendship will teach you how to do the next one better. That heartache will remind you to be gentle with other people. That loneliness will help you appreciate connection when you do find it—and you will find it, probably when your least looking but it's out there somewhere... Not every season lasts forever, but every season does produce something precious eventually, even if it’s just a fresh perspective. So sleep well, . Life is a long series of letting some things go and holding others close—a catch and release sort of cycle. Let go of needing approval. Let go of bitterness, and resentment, and any of that junk. Let go of insecurity. Let go of guilt. It will keep you shackled like nothing else. Hold close to your family and the people in your life who have stuck around. Hold close to your morals and your integrity. Hold close to your hopes and dreams because really nothing you set your mind to is impossible..Believe in tomorrow. Hold closest to those you love. At the end of the day, it’s all that really matters, and as long as you have that— then I say you have more than enough.

9 years ago My sweet sweet Nana wrote me a note and left it on my dresser one morning and her words have helped me thru my journey and I know without a doubt they will help me meaneuver life without her by my side, she was my rock my anchor the one person I could turn to for anything, from adopting me into her family at 9 years old to teaching me about life and all it had to offer good and bad, I know without a doubt without her in my life I wouldn't be the person I am today, she taught me things I never knew I had learned until after she was gone,I miss her bigger than the stars and I know she's in heaven guiding me thru life till I get to see her again one day,,
This was Nanas note that day..
I really hope you’re starting to give yourself the credit you deserve. Life can throw some tough stuff your way, but remember, you’ve been strong enough to get through it all. That’s something to be proud of! Whenever you face challenges, I want you to know that you’ve got the inner strength to keep going. No matter how hard things seem, you’ve got the guts to keep moving forward, growing, and healing. Look in the mirror, and say to yourself, “I’m proud of you.” And mean it! You’ve accomplished so much, and it’s important to acknowledge that. Most importantly, I hope you realize how amazing you are as a person. You deserve your own love and care, just like anyone else. So, be kind to yourself, appreciate your strengths, and keep being the wonderful human you that you are, know I love you as my own child and long after I'm gone I hope you will always know this, even on your worst days Love yourself as much as I love you my sweet Hope..

You know its words to some but for me it's a life line a lot of days one without it I would have gotten so lost way before now, I framed her note and I keep it hanging in my bathroom by the mirror, it been there since a ew days after she wrote it..I've shared these same words to so many I thought needed to hear it same as me and I hope it gets them thru the hard times like it has me,,, and if your reading this and goin thru a hard time in life now or in the past and still struggling I hope they help you as well..

Every soul, who feels that there's a bunch of dreams left unrealised, remember that as long as the life remains, the possibility to dream remains, that sometimes some dreams that we paint in our hearts are not meant to grow us in our journey of life and then while we walk along the path, even the detours and broken dreams pave way to a whole lot of waking dreams that only the heart of gratitude can see and feel. I've seen and felt and experienced same as some of you , that sometimes some souls have to go through a lot of trials and tribulations, lessons and sufferings, and even then they never fail to wear kindness and grace simply because they know that what happens around them should not intrude upon what is inside their heart. To know that we are here for a purpose and to not live idly, to know that the purpose is as simple as to stay kind and open to every possibility is as beautiful as the sky who knows no matter how dark the night is the stars will always shine.. In a world where everything comes at a price, if you're choosing to stay kind, if you're choosing to value your dignity and your integrity, if your choosing to understand and embrace the smile of solitude, if you're choosing to employ your faculties to understand the real questions of life, then you're alive, much more alive than your human dreams could have made you feel. Because no matter what, when sunset hits the night, and the day comes to a close you know you've done your part, you know you have embraced one more day with gratitude and grace, with a formidable zeal for Life and an invincible spirit of human understanding that stands firm pillared with hope and faith. And then no matter how many voices shrill your mind, the echo of your soul would pierce through your heart and enlighten every inch of your mind, body and soul, and you would know how proud the universe must be to see the faithfulness, the strength and resilience in your soul, the very mould that was shaped in the fire of the stardust that shines upon the sky, sometimes becoming a beacon to others while sometimes lying beautifully hidden but always there, always alive. And so each time, I look at the sky with a bunch of stars, I know I am alive, burning with all that life is made up of. And someday when the day closes for another dawn altogether, I know somehow that I;ve done my part as well as I can maybe its not perfect but I tried and that should be all that matters,

Life is tough and sometimes we meet people who wake up every single morning to face a new day, a new struggle, they have to dig deep just to find strength to get up and face the day that Gods given them, and then you have people who try and destroy everything a person has worked so hard to try and rebuild and heal from and this wish is for you..
I hope you find the courage to overcome every obstacle life puts in your way becuz nothing is impossible and the only thing between success and failure is how hard your willing to fight to win your battles..
I hope you have the courage to do the work. I hope you have the courage to sit down with your demons, to befriend them; to look them in the face and to not feel fear. I hope you have the courage to stop picking or numbing or avoiding the wounds within, and I hope you choose to heal them instead. I hope you have the courage to understand yourself, fundamentally — to open up the deepest, darkest parts of your mind, to unhinge your rib cage revealing the gritty parts of your soul, the parts no one else claps for, and I hope you have the courage to clean them out. To forgive yourself for what you had to do to kill your sadness. To forgive yourself for the ways in which you didn’t fight for the person you were becoming. I hope you have the courage to nurture your pain, to not disregard it or to sweep it under the rug of distraction or convenience. I hope you have the courage to heal yourself, even when it hurts.

An 85-year-old man goes to see his doctor for his regular physical exam. The doctor says that the man needs to provide a sperm sample and gives him a jar saying, “Take this jar home with you and come back tomorrow with a sperm sample.”The next day the old man goes back to the doctors and gives him the jar, which is as clean and empty as when the doctor gave it to him.So the doctor asks what happened and why there is no sperm sample in the jar. The old man says, “Well, doc, it’s like this… first I tried with my right hand, but nothing. Then I tried with my left hand, but still nothing. Then I asked my wife for help. She tried with her right hand – nothing; then with her left, still nothing. She tried with her mouth, first with the teeth in, then with her teeth out, still nothing. We even called up Maisie, the lady next door and she tried too, first with both hands, then an armpit, and she even tried squeezing it between her knees, but still nothing.”The doctor is really shocked by all this and asks incredulously, “You asked your neighbor???”The old man replies, “Yep, not one of us could get the jar open.”